Aubrey Crafton is our featured resident at Heartland this month. Mr. Crafton is a native of Middle Tennessee, having been born in Nashville and growing up in Williamson County. He fondly remembers hunting and riding horses at night here in Tennessee.
Mr. Crafton’s family keeps him busy. He has seventeen grandchildren and 16 great grandchildren. Some of his current activities include church attendance and watching his favorite western movies on television.
A veteran, Mr. Crafton served in the Navy. He joined the Navy at the age of 15 and served as an electrician.
When asked what keeps him going all these years, Mr. Crafton attributed his health to V-8 juice, buttermilk and applesauce.
Elinor Folk is not only a featured resident but also one of the first WAVES commissioned in the US Navy. Elinor enlisted in the Navy in 1942 feeling it was her duty to serve her country during wartime.
Her rank in the Navy was Petty Officer 2nd class. She served as a LINK Trainer Instructor at Pensacola Naval Air Station, Whiting Field, Pensacola, Florida. As a LINK trainer instructor, she trained Navy pilots about flight navigation on flight simulators. Mrs. Folk recounts, “And so we were the first WAVES at Pensacola Naval Air Station. Ten of us. And that was very exciting. That’s how I met my husband because we enjoyed a great deal of popularity.”
After her time in the service, Mrs. Folk settled in Nashville where she was a WPLN radio storyteller, news announcer and “Coffee Break” interviewer and producer. She was named 1972 SESAC FM Broadcaster of the Year for American Women in Radio and Television (AWRT) and served as a producer/broadcaster until 1995. She continued to perform and narrate for the Olde World Theatre until just a few years ago.
Today Mrs. Folk enjoys participating in various activities with other residents and is always thinking about how she can contribute her skills to the betterment of others.
The word rehab often conjures up service provided after some type of surgery. But actually rehabilitation means reshaping lives and restoring lost abilities after any illness or injury. Short-term rehab care is available at The Meadows for anyone needing special recovery after a hospital stay.
We often see patients recovering from pneumonia, flu, urinary infections and other illnesses. Patients may need to leave the hospital but still require extra care as they return to their optimal level of function.
Many of the patients needing rehab care come directly from the hospital following an illness, stroke, traumatic injury, hip and knee fractures, or surgery. The specialized care is designed to aid patients who need additional care and rehabilitation before transitioning back to their home.
At our facility, our rehabilitation team provides individualized and goal-oriented treatment programs. We strive to help patients return home with a lesser level of care.
The Meadows accepts Medicare and select private insurance for skilled nursing care. The Meadows is currently in-network with Blue Cross Blue Shield, HealthSpring, Cigna, and POMCO.
The holidays offer an opportunity for long-distance caregivers and family members to personally observe older relatives. Family members who have not seen their loved one in a few months may be surprised seeing a parent looking frail or their home in disarray. Regular phone conversations don’t always give a true assessment of their loved ones situation.
Weight Loss. One of the most obvious signs of ill health, either physical or mental, is weight loss. The loved one might not have the energy to cook and clean up. Medications might change the way food tastes. Or there might be a health related issue that needs medical attention.
Balance. Lack of balance might lead to risk for falling. Pay attention to the way your parent walks. Difficulty getting up from a seated position or difficulty walking and mobiity might be a sign of joint or muscle problems. Unexplained bruising could signal falls.
Emotional Well-being. Some of the signs to look for are withdrawal from activities with others, changing sleep patterns, lost of interest in hobbies, lack of interest in normal home chores and changes in personal hygiene. The causes of these changes could be as wide-ranging as depression, dementia, or a health issue.
Home Maintenance. Pay attention to your parent’s home. Is the home neat? Are bills being paid? Is mail piled up? Is there scorched cookware or spoiled food? Is laundry piled up? Are there unexplained dents in their care? Be sure to check prescriptions and medications for expiration dates. Are medicines being taken regularly.
It might be time for a heart-to-heart conversation with your loved one about their circumstances, their concerns and the steps they would like taken to make things better. A health assessment appointment with their primary care physician might be the first step. Do they need extra help in their home or is it time to explore other residence options.
Information that you might want to gather for future reference include:
- Contact information for physicians, friends, neighbors, clergy, local professionals
- A list of medications and pharmacy contacts
- A financial list of property ownership, debts, income and expenses as well as bank account and credit care information
- Access to vital documents such as will, power of attorney, birth certificate, social security number, insurance policies and drivers license.
- A copy of senior resources in the community (Usually provided by the Council on Aging.)
- A recent phone book for the community.
Your loved ones will want to be in control of their own lives. Ensure them that having systems in place will allow them to be independent and keep them safe.
Here are some ideas that should bring hugs and smiles! But don’t forget your gift of time is the best gift of all.
- A Kindle or a Tablet. A really thoughtful gift might be loading a Kindle or iPad with books, movies, family photos and magazines they would like. Spend an afternoon showing them how to use it, send emails to their grandkids and show them how to surf the internet. Audio books might also be an option for those with trouble with eyesight.
- Subscription to a magazine or newspaper. Many magazines targeted to an older demographic offer large print subscriptions and are ideal for those who have trouble reading regular-sized print. Some may welcome a daily newspaper from their hometown, if they have moved away.
- Hobby Basket. Hobbies are important to seniors. Creating a basket with items that they can use to pursue a hobby is an original idea. A craft basket might have everything they need for scrapbooks. Adult coloring books and colored pencils are enjoyed by young and old alike. A reader might like a reading light, bookmark, a new book and a couple of crossword puzzle books.
- TV Listening Device and a large button TV remote. Television and movies are a popular pastime but for older people who live with others, it can be difficult to negotiate a volume that works for everyone. A great gift for people with hearing loss to listen at their own volume without disturbing anyone else is a TV listening device. There are a number of TV listening devices on the market that can help an elderly person hear the TV better, but the best options available today are the wireless radio frequency systems. And a large button TV remote is welcome for those that can’t use the small number remotes that come with some televisions.
- Tickets to a movie or show. While many seniors love going to the movies or out to see a play, the expense may be out of the question for many who are on a fixed income. Tickets to a movie or special show make for a great gift and a special outing.
- An automatic card shuffler. For the card player, an automatic card shuffler is a welcome gift for someone with arthritis in their hands.
- Homemade meal or cookies. Receiving a favorite food is a thoughtful gift for any senior. Bringing your family member their favorite cake or cookies brings back memories of holidays and allows them to share with friends. You could even use their own recipe to surprise them. If your favorite senior is still living alone, you could think about preparing several of their favorite meals and freezing them in portions so they can take them out easily and only have to re-heat them.
- Fresh Fruit. A basket of fresh seasonal fruit or a fruit-of-the-month club makes a special treat and provides good nutrition.
- Tea or Coffee. A selection of coffee, tea or hot chocolate makes for a warm tasty holiday gift. If budget allows, a single-serve coffee maker by Keurig is especially convenient for someone living alone or in a small space.
- Restaurant Gift Cards. A gift card for a favorite restaurant or coffee shop is ideal for mobile seniors. If getting around is difficult, make this gift even more special by providing transportation and dine with them.
Personal Gifts/Services/Assistance Gifts
- Manicure, massage or spa treatment. Whether it is massage, a manicure/pedicure or a welcome haircut, these personal treats boost well-being.
- A new personal phone book. A new phone/address book with needed numbers for family, friends, physicians, church, pharmacy and others can be welcome.
- A car wash or cleaning service. Think about what chores you could take off their list if they live alone – like a car wash or oil change, a house cleaning service, or yard work.
- Uber or Lyft App. Senior use of Uber has increased over the past few years giving them newfound independence. Showing your senior how to download and use Uber might help with making doctor’s appointments or activities with friends.
- Easy to use Mobile Phones. Many smartphones of today offer large buttons, photo speed dial, visual rings and more. There are also landline phones that can be adjusted for volume.
- Easy Grip tools and pens. For those with arthritis or grip problems, there are many padded grip tools like the OXO Good Grips kitchen tools and soft pencils.
- Lap Desk. A beanbag lap desk, some note cards and stamps would make a great gift. A portable lap desk can be used for crafts, eating and reading.
- Batteries. It is always a good idea to have extra batteries on hand. Many need batteries for hearing aids, watches and maybe a favorite electronic device.
- Donations to a favorite cause or charity of your relative or friend. A friend of mine asked her family to provide a piano for their church. She can attend weekly and enjoy her “present”.
The Meadows | Thursday, September 8 | 5:30 pm
It’s a favorite. Just $10. Join us in The Meadows Main Dining Room. Public invited. RSVP at 615-646-4466 appreciated by not required.
Cookie Bake Sale – The Meadows
Fresh baked cookies will be on sale in the lobby from 10 am – 3 pm every Friday during September
The Meadows | Thursday, October 13 | 5:30 pm
The perfect time for chili and all the fixin’s. Just $10. Public invited. RSVP at 615-646-4466 appreciated by not required.
You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, in order to spend what you get on your pleasures. —James 4:3
Do you ever wonder why our prayers are not answered? We think that our prayers are meant for good, but God does not seem to be answering. It’s not like we are asking for cars, or vacations or a winning lottery ticket. Maybe we are praying for healing, for employment or to be spared from pain and suffering. How can those prayers be self-serving?
If we are honest with ourselves, most of our prayers are self-serving. We want something—even a ‘good’ something—and we ask to have it granted to us. But, pure prayer is much more about relating with the Almighty than it is about receiving positive answers for what we are looking to gain.
The prayer that always opens the heart of heaven is the prayer that is offered without expectation of a result. When we are able to pray without attachment to results, God’s desire becomes our own, and we are surprised at what happens—we are given results that we could never have expected.
O God, give me the soul that longs to be one with you more than it wants the desires of the heart to be filled.
Mrs. Mable McCay is an active member of our Heartland community and her home church Donelson Church of Christ. She keeps all of us at Heartland young at heart with her stories and her wit. Here at Heartland, she attends many of our socials, bingo, outings and entertainment. Be careful she is very knowledgeable and wins many trivia contests. She also keeps herself busy with Devotionals, Women’s Fellowship, reading and watching movies. Her family lives out of town but visits often. And her many church family and friends keep her busy as well.
Mrs. McCay was born June 24, 1917. She was one of five children. She married her husband in 1948. They raised one son and two daughters. Mr. and Mrs. McCay were married for many years before Mr. McCay’s death in 2004. Mrs. McCay was involved with the Tennessee Blind School for many years.
Hoffman, has a “colorful” personality and never meets a stranger. I recently caught up with Hoffman and learned some interesting facts. For starters, he was born in Birmingham, Alabama, on September 8, 1927 and grew up there. After graduating from high school he was drafted into the U.S. Army. After serving his country he returned to Birmingham and attended Samford University on a G. I. scholarship. There he received a degree in U.S. History. After graduation, he taught high school history for several years. Most of his career was spent selling insurance.
He and his lovely late wife, Martha Cathryn, met and were married in 1952. Hoffman was quick to express his wedding was large, but his life with Martha Cathryn, was even larger. Together they had two children. A son, that has passed away, and a precious daughter, Susan that is the “apple of his eye”. Hoffman has two grandsons, Patrick and Jordan which he also speaks of fondly.
When asking about his hobbies, Hoffman expressed his love of history, poetry, golf, and travelling. When asked to share some his travels, with a smile Hoffman expressed that he has travelled all 50 states, been abroad to Italy, Germany, France, South America, Austria, New Zealand, and China.
If you’re ever at The Meadows look Hoffman Harless up. You won’t regret it! His outgoing, larger than life personality, will put a BIG smile on your face. You will leave a richer person because Hoffman Harless will have brightened your day.
Congratulations, Hoffman Harless, on being selected as The Meadows Resident of the Month. We’re grateful you’re a part of The Meadows family.
All caregivers need some time off for vacation, special family occasions or even their own health needs. And that’s where The Meadows and Heartland can help. We offer respite care at The Meadows and Heartland, and many times Medicare may pay most of the cost beyond the co-pay.
Respite care is short-term or temporary care services to relieve an in-home caregiver of responsibilities for an individual with long-term care needs. Respite care provides short-term breaks that can relieve stress, restore energy, and promote balance in your life.
There are also benefits for the resident. They will receive quality care, spend time in a safe, supportive environment, interact with others and if able, participate in activities designed to match personal abilities.